The birth of the baby - it's expected a miracle or an unforeseen circumstance? Each pair decides for himself when and how many children they are willing to have. We just try to understand where does the desire to have children ...
Today, many young people live together without worrying about the children for many years. First, you need to make a career, to establish family life, and in general - even when using the independence, if not in their youth? Fortunately, with modern methods of contraception problems with the "move aside" the pregnancy does not occur. And with the development of relationships and develops a desire to have a baby. Well, there is a time to reflect on their own capabilities.
Despite the large amount of information about pregnancy and childbirth, fear of becoming parents - this is perfectly normal and common occurrence for young people. This fear manifests itself in different ways: people are afraid to give birth to an unhealthy child, not be able to properly care for him, losing his own freedom, as well as losing harmony with the advent of the child. But these fears can be easily overcome if we just engage in a dialogue.Both men and women suffering his natural anxiety associated with the desire to have a baby. Often, people just are not ready to take care of the little man, and sometimes they realize it's too late - when a woman is already pregnant.
I dream of a child
A woman wants a baby from a loved one to prove their loyalty and love for him. Therapist Annie Butler wrote: "The maturity of a woman lies in her ability to live separately from his mother. Have their own child - that means the most to become a mother, that is, to some extent, cease to be a child for his mother. "
For a man to father - is a mature step, leading to a reassessment of values in life or enrich their own personalities.
Biological clock
20 years ago it was thought that the activity of eggs from women is reduced to 25 years, that is just before this time it is worth thinking about how to acquire offspring. Today, let alone 29 years. But all the same "ideal" age for childbirth for every woman is different. The most successful period between the creation of the pair and the birth of a child - 3 years. Dr. Emil Papernik explains: "In order to get pregnant at age 20 missing 4 months, and in 27 years - to 8 months. He also said that the biological clock - is not a myth, and this should be remembered.
When he was born
Some parents are going through their best years after the appearance of small, and others - are bred in the first two years of life of their offspring. Even if a child is long awaited, his birth, there are many conflicts and misunderstandings between the parents. Why? Annie Butler explains: "There is a huge difference between an imaginary child, is a kind of continuation of self-esteem" of parents, and the real. That is why the pair and are experiencing post-partum relationship crisis.
During the first few weeks or months, mother and child are in a natural symbiosis. For my father - is another matter. He feels that his place next to a woman employed, they need to align this failure and to restore its position. The birth of the child emphasizes the difference of the sexes. But on this principle and built a family.
Have a child - this obligation?
Desire to have children. Often it is influenced by society, environment, family. Our natural desire is mixed with a sense of duty. It's a trap. We are caught between their own desire to have a child and the duty to have it. It is the instinct of survival. The desire to have a child provokes a complete overhaul of mental and emotional evaluation of the events that send us to our own history.
Psychoanalyst Elisabeth Darsham wrote: "Our parents in early childhood are preparing ourselves to become a mother or father for her child. They lay in the subconscious sense of duty to give birth to offspring. " But some women do not take this team, considering that it is impossible to wish your child when you yourself can not (or do not want to) give up their own status of the child.
The art of being together
Many couples break up with the birth of a child. Why we can not survive these shocks as easily as our ancestors did? Aldo Nauru, a pediatrician and author of "couple and a child, says: c birth couple ceases to be a proper pair, three of them now! Therefore, parents need a lot of energy and patience to stay together. Love gives us strength to overcome all difficulties.
Today, many young people live together without worrying about the children for many years. First, you need to make a career, to establish family life, and in general - even when using the independence, if not in their youth? Fortunately, with modern methods of contraception problems with the "move aside" the pregnancy does not occur. And with the development of relationships and develops a desire to have a baby. Well, there is a time to reflect on their own capabilities.
Despite the large amount of information about pregnancy and childbirth, fear of becoming parents - this is perfectly normal and common occurrence for young people. This fear manifests itself in different ways: people are afraid to give birth to an unhealthy child, not be able to properly care for him, losing his own freedom, as well as losing harmony with the advent of the child. But these fears can be easily overcome if we just engage in a dialogue.Both men and women suffering his natural anxiety associated with the desire to have a baby. Often, people just are not ready to take care of the little man, and sometimes they realize it's too late - when a woman is already pregnant.
I dream of a child
A woman wants a baby from a loved one to prove their loyalty and love for him. Therapist Annie Butler wrote: "The maturity of a woman lies in her ability to live separately from his mother. Have their own child - that means the most to become a mother, that is, to some extent, cease to be a child for his mother. "
For a man to father - is a mature step, leading to a reassessment of values in life or enrich their own personalities.
Biological clock
20 years ago it was thought that the activity of eggs from women is reduced to 25 years, that is just before this time it is worth thinking about how to acquire offspring. Today, let alone 29 years. But all the same "ideal" age for childbirth for every woman is different. The most successful period between the creation of the pair and the birth of a child - 3 years. Dr. Emil Papernik explains: "In order to get pregnant at age 20 missing 4 months, and in 27 years - to 8 months. He also said that the biological clock - is not a myth, and this should be remembered.
When he was born
Some parents are going through their best years after the appearance of small, and others - are bred in the first two years of life of their offspring. Even if a child is long awaited, his birth, there are many conflicts and misunderstandings between the parents. Why? Annie Butler explains: "There is a huge difference between an imaginary child, is a kind of continuation of self-esteem" of parents, and the real. That is why the pair and are experiencing post-partum relationship crisis.
During the first few weeks or months, mother and child are in a natural symbiosis. For my father - is another matter. He feels that his place next to a woman employed, they need to align this failure and to restore its position. The birth of the child emphasizes the difference of the sexes. But on this principle and built a family.
Have a child - this obligation?
Desire to have children. Often it is influenced by society, environment, family. Our natural desire is mixed with a sense of duty. It's a trap. We are caught between their own desire to have a child and the duty to have it. It is the instinct of survival. The desire to have a child provokes a complete overhaul of mental and emotional evaluation of the events that send us to our own history.
Psychoanalyst Elisabeth Darsham wrote: "Our parents in early childhood are preparing ourselves to become a mother or father for her child. They lay in the subconscious sense of duty to give birth to offspring. " But some women do not take this team, considering that it is impossible to wish your child when you yourself can not (or do not want to) give up their own status of the child.
The art of being together
Many couples break up with the birth of a child. Why we can not survive these shocks as easily as our ancestors did? Aldo Nauru, a pediatrician and author of "couple and a child, says: c birth couple ceases to be a proper pair, three of them now! Therefore, parents need a lot of energy and patience to stay together. Love gives us strength to overcome all difficulties.
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